Some things I wrote down to think about when my day gets hard.
· Love my children always, and be there for them.
· Take care of my physical, mental health by exercising and thinking on the good things in life
· Accept what life has given you and concentrate on today, making today the best you can.
· Learn from the past, don’t wallow in it but grow from it. Learn the lessons and improve my life from it. Mistakes made in the past don’t have to be repeated, it is my choice.
· Be who I am, not someone else. I have a good heart; I am a smart and attractive man.
· Choices others make are their choices, I cannot change them, accept what others choose in life, and I will be stronger for it, allowing them to be who they are.
· The past is full of good memories, hang on to those, and let them warm your heart to what today holds.
· Learn to talk my feelings out constructively and not hold it in. Sharing is the best way to not repeat the past but to make a better future.
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
Saturday, May 16, 2009
Got What I needed
You ever wonder why you feel down a lot, not able to cope with the day to day stuff. Why we can't seem to get that feeling like I am successful and complete and tomorrow will be alright? You just seem to be feeling one notch below where you think you should be, and if you were then life would be a smile instead of lacking one.
I have been there and these past few weeks it has been tough, not having a day off and working long hours, not getting the sleep I should. Things get edgy in a sort of way, no matter what it is. You start to wonder is this all worth it, you know, the things you are doing day in and day out. I am not talking about taking my life just to stop whatever feelings I may be having. I am not that way. I believe there is always a way through and that giving up is not the answer (I just wanted to make that clear).
Then all of a sudden someone gives you a compliment or does something nice for you just at the right moment in your life when you need it most. You feel the goose bumps and your heart seems to beat stronger and life seems to flow through your veins once again. What a feeling. It seems to change everything.
But what has changed? You didn't do anything different, have you? No, someone else did something and all of a sudden your feelings make life a smile. Circumstances haven't necessarily changed one bit but it doesn't matter does it? Just an act of kindness to you and WOW you feel good all over.
I would like to hang on to that moment and live there and I could tackle the world when I am in that place. But you know as well as I do that it is just a moment in time, it will pass and you will forget that feeling and how everything looked to you. Why does it pass, the circumstances we face don't change but how we see them do because of what someone else did for else and we can succeed at that very moment then when it passes we doubt if we will get through it.
I wish I could bottle it and save it for those times I need a little dose just to make my day better, I would be rich wouldn't I......
So what do we do? Just a thought, look at what happens when someone says a kind word to you at that time when you need it most and how it helps you through your day. Then think on how it would feel to them if you did the same thing, remember that you have no idea what they are dealing with at that time because they (that is the one who gave you a kind word when you needed it didn't know what you were dealing with did they) may be going through something that is really dragging them down. They get a does of life from you and what did it cost you? Did you get drained by saying a kind word or doing a kind deed? No, you actually feel a little better I would say.
So If I feel better and my day looks brighter by someone else doing something good for me and I can do that for someone else then maybe I should pay more attention to those around me and I just might find out that my day to day stuff will look better by me giving a little something to others.
I know this is not a complete thought but I just needed to say a little. I hope you can have a better day because I want one, those are nice to have.
Later.
I have been there and these past few weeks it has been tough, not having a day off and working long hours, not getting the sleep I should. Things get edgy in a sort of way, no matter what it is. You start to wonder is this all worth it, you know, the things you are doing day in and day out. I am not talking about taking my life just to stop whatever feelings I may be having. I am not that way. I believe there is always a way through and that giving up is not the answer (I just wanted to make that clear).
Then all of a sudden someone gives you a compliment or does something nice for you just at the right moment in your life when you need it most. You feel the goose bumps and your heart seems to beat stronger and life seems to flow through your veins once again. What a feeling. It seems to change everything.
But what has changed? You didn't do anything different, have you? No, someone else did something and all of a sudden your feelings make life a smile. Circumstances haven't necessarily changed one bit but it doesn't matter does it? Just an act of kindness to you and WOW you feel good all over.
I would like to hang on to that moment and live there and I could tackle the world when I am in that place. But you know as well as I do that it is just a moment in time, it will pass and you will forget that feeling and how everything looked to you. Why does it pass, the circumstances we face don't change but how we see them do because of what someone else did for else and we can succeed at that very moment then when it passes we doubt if we will get through it.
I wish I could bottle it and save it for those times I need a little dose just to make my day better, I would be rich wouldn't I......
So what do we do? Just a thought, look at what happens when someone says a kind word to you at that time when you need it most and how it helps you through your day. Then think on how it would feel to them if you did the same thing, remember that you have no idea what they are dealing with at that time because they (that is the one who gave you a kind word when you needed it didn't know what you were dealing with did they) may be going through something that is really dragging them down. They get a does of life from you and what did it cost you? Did you get drained by saying a kind word or doing a kind deed? No, you actually feel a little better I would say.
So If I feel better and my day looks brighter by someone else doing something good for me and I can do that for someone else then maybe I should pay more attention to those around me and I just might find out that my day to day stuff will look better by me giving a little something to others.
I know this is not a complete thought but I just needed to say a little. I hope you can have a better day because I want one, those are nice to have.
Later.
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
Curious
I am here early at work and wondering what tomorrow will hold. I have made alot of mistakes in life up to this point, each one not necissarily recognized but the ones that are at least has had some impact on how I think. What do you do with these new observances? I hope that they stay in my focus so that I can respond to them in some positive fashion.
I just want to make things better for me and those around me. Desire is a wonderful thing but not necessarily the smoothest in the application asspect. There are alot of bumps in the road along the way, bumps that you never saw coming.......some you wish you never hit in lifes path.....
Until later
I just want to make things better for me and those around me. Desire is a wonderful thing but not necessarily the smoothest in the application asspect. There are alot of bumps in the road along the way, bumps that you never saw coming.......some you wish you never hit in lifes path.....
Until later
Friday, May 8, 2009
Trying to see as others see you
Maybe the image I have of myself is flawed. I think we all have flawed views of who we are. The only way we can try to see ourselves is how we interact with others and see their responses to us. When someone says you are a certain way then do you believe them or do you try to see if there is any validation to what they say. I guess feelings do play a part in how we see ourselves and others, don't it. Especially if we are trying to explain a certain behaviour in ourselves or someone else.
Why do we struggle at times to find answers about ourselves or others and never seem to get a complete satisfactory answer that we can live with.....? There is always that little lingering doubt that if something was just a little different it would be alright or acceptable enough for us to move on.
So what do we do with ourselves in these times, do we lash out in anger or bitterness or do we just try to make sense as best as we can and move on with what we have? I guess everyone is different, depending on how obsessive we are about things, wanting the right answer to make ourselves feel better and the other to look worse......you tell me.
Just thoughts I am writing down to clear my head. Sometimes writing gets me to see things a little clearer. Yes I have issues with myself and with others around me but I try to make the most of it.......some nights are hard but what person doesn't have hard times to work through for whatever reason it may be.......Tomorrow always shows up and us with it.
Looking Ahead.....
Why do we struggle at times to find answers about ourselves or others and never seem to get a complete satisfactory answer that we can live with.....? There is always that little lingering doubt that if something was just a little different it would be alright or acceptable enough for us to move on.
So what do we do with ourselves in these times, do we lash out in anger or bitterness or do we just try to make sense as best as we can and move on with what we have? I guess everyone is different, depending on how obsessive we are about things, wanting the right answer to make ourselves feel better and the other to look worse......you tell me.
Just thoughts I am writing down to clear my head. Sometimes writing gets me to see things a little clearer. Yes I have issues with myself and with others around me but I try to make the most of it.......some nights are hard but what person doesn't have hard times to work through for whatever reason it may be.......Tomorrow always shows up and us with it.
Looking Ahead.....
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
People see what they want to see
Life is tough, you have your ways about you and those around you have their ways. You can look at the same thing and think about it two different ways. It all depends on your perspective which I think has everything to do with where you came from. What I mean by that is that what you have experienced in life up to that point will determine how you process what you are exposed to at that moment.
This is where I can say it is red and someone else will say it is pink. We both are looking at the same thing but because of what I have to draw upon to determine the way I think about something is different for the other person.
Hence we come to different conclusions about things. We feel differently about things, we want different things, we act differently. Are we both wrong, I don't think so. We just have to realize that there has to be room for people to be themselves.
Some are suspicious about everything, they have lack of trust, some are very trusting, others controlling, then others very submissive. Where does those behaviors come from. I say look at what they have experienced in life and you will get a glimpse of why, maybe not the whole answer but a start.
I am saying all this because life is confusing and hard at times and we tend to forget that not everyone sees things the way we do. Hence the disagreement or argument or tension between two individuals will come about if we don't step back and look at it in a broader picture. It is hard to not take a stand on something and defend it when you start to think how maybe the other person may be looking at it.
I just wanted to write this because I forget sometimes that what I see is not necessarily what others see about me. they will believe what they want because of what they think they see, judging things on the surface without having the whole picture or all the information to come to the right conclusions about something.
I am guilty of this myself and it has caused me a lot of heartache in the past, so I vow to try to step back and look at the broader picture in the future.
This is where I can say it is red and someone else will say it is pink. We both are looking at the same thing but because of what I have to draw upon to determine the way I think about something is different for the other person.
Hence we come to different conclusions about things. We feel differently about things, we want different things, we act differently. Are we both wrong, I don't think so. We just have to realize that there has to be room for people to be themselves.
Some are suspicious about everything, they have lack of trust, some are very trusting, others controlling, then others very submissive. Where does those behaviors come from. I say look at what they have experienced in life and you will get a glimpse of why, maybe not the whole answer but a start.
I am saying all this because life is confusing and hard at times and we tend to forget that not everyone sees things the way we do. Hence the disagreement or argument or tension between two individuals will come about if we don't step back and look at it in a broader picture. It is hard to not take a stand on something and defend it when you start to think how maybe the other person may be looking at it.
I just wanted to write this because I forget sometimes that what I see is not necessarily what others see about me. they will believe what they want because of what they think they see, judging things on the surface without having the whole picture or all the information to come to the right conclusions about something.
I am guilty of this myself and it has caused me a lot of heartache in the past, so I vow to try to step back and look at the broader picture in the future.
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